As a proponent of the #MeToo movement, I decided to share this article as a great example of changing the narrative of abuse through sharing your story. Also, Diaz aptly articulates the shame that comes from sexual abuse, harassment, and violence. In addition to describing his own story and how the abuse permeated all corners of his life as much as he attempted to run from it, he also discusses the process of therapy as arduous yet helpful. I think it is important for us to understand that in healing from trauma of all kinds, therapy is a part of this path and it is not always easy.

Sometimes we (myself included) have a picture that in therapy we come, share our stories, and after feeling that sense of relief we are all set to move forward. While the unburdening that comes from voicing your feelings is liberating and undoubtedly helpful, the truth is there are many layers to how our traumas/experiences effect our lives and it takes time and effort to be fully honest and vulnerable. In addition to the opening-up process, we then need to make whatever changes are necessary to lead the kind of lives we wish for. Each person is different, and it is important to stay honest and compassionate with yourself during this process.

I think Junot Diaz does a fantastic job in this article (I recommend his other work too), and I hope it is helpful to the readers of this blog.